However, true forgiveness comes from within you and is what ultimately sets you free in life. Most people have been trained to be hard on themselves, and also that forgiveness has to come from someone or something outside of you. Self-forgiveness is a big one and something that many of people, myself included, don't have a lot of experience with. By expressing your real emotions, you can start to unlock and unhook yourself from the drama and suffering of the situation, which is actually caused by your denial and repression of these emotions, not the emotions themselves. Although this is a different understanding of emotions than you've been taught, I'm sure you've had many liberating and positive experiences when you've expressed negative emotions like sadness, anger and fear. Emotions become positive when they are appropriately expressed and turn negative when they are denied and repressed. If a certain aspect of your personality, your body or your career bothers you and because of it you find yourself feeling ashamed, as uncomfortable or potentially negative as it may seem, the best thing you can do is acknowledge and express your shame authentically. If you can identify, acknowledge and ultimately express the true emotions you're experiencing related to this perceived flaw, you can create a real sense of freedom for yourself. Admit and express the underlying emotions.But, if you relate to some aspect of your body, personality, relationships, career or life in general as a flaw, you first have to get real about it if you're going to do anything about it. So often you may try to avoid, run from or pretend your flaws are gone (that never works).
The first step in almost every process of growth and transformation is telling the truth. Here are some ideas about what you can do to move through your experience of feeling flawed to a place of acceptance, peace and love: It's one of the most painful ways you can allow your ego to run you, and it can have devastating consequences if you're not conscious about it.ĥ steps to feel peace, love and self-acceptance Although, as you know from experience, feeling flawed can rob you of your energy, your passion, your happiness, your confidence and your life. There's nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. Regardless of how philosophical you get about this, however, most people as human beings experience a sense of feeling flawed in certain aspects of their lives and at particular times in life.
But the truth is they simply are as they are-you add the meaning and interpretation to them. You may obsess about certain aspects of your body or appearance, your personality, your life or work circumstances and deem them as bad or flawed. Ironically, it's only love that leads to real healing and transformation, which ultimately can create the actual change you say you're looking for or a true sense of acceptance that gives you access to authentic liberation, regardless of circumstances.Īt a deep level, all your flaws are subjective and based on your own interpretations, perspectives and focuses anyway. I've resisted this notion of loving my flaws for most of my life, worried that if I actually loved the things I thought were wrong with me, they'd somehow never change, I'd be stuck with them and I'd become unmotivated or lazy about self-improvement. I recently had an insight (one that I've had before, but this time it came to me at a deeper level) that maybe instead of focusing on fixing my flaws, it's more important to love them instead. I've been very aware of this dynamic, as I've been in the process of creating my intentions in the past few weeks. Although I may pretend otherwise, many of my own goals, desires and even my motivation to grow often comes from a deep place of insecurity within me, thinking that if I can just fix what's wrong with me, then everything will be okay. If you're anything like me, you've probably spent more time than you'd like to admit trying to fix your various flaws. If you think it's harder to accept yourself than it is to say your thighs are too big or that you're too afraid to take a risk, it's time to get out of your own way! Get the five-step plan to face your "imperfections" and finally love yourself, flaws and all.
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